I just had a miscarriage. I was 2 weeks along. I had already came up with names for boys and girls?

I need to know how to deal with this. My boyfriend and I were not expecting this pregnancy but it came and went so quickly. We are both upset but we don't know how to cope with this. What should we do to get our minds off of this loss? Please help us!

I just had a miscarriage. I was 2 weeks along. I had already came up with names for boys and girls?
It happens more often than most women realize. Just relax and if you want to try for another baby wait at least a couple of good cylces before trying again.


It's normal to feel sad, and take however much time you need to mourn. I know how you feel, I've had three miscarriages in a row. Sorry you have to go through this.
Reply:One way is to try again, if you want to. Use this time to talk about if you want a family together. Things like this have a good potential to bring couple closer together.





If you do want to try again, you can start taking the prenatal vitamins before you're even pregnant. This will help cut down on birth defects.





Even though you're both hurting, keep the lines of communication open. You can become a tighter couple because of this, or it could drive you apart. Either way, you have the opportunity to deeply examine your relationship together.





Sorry for your loss, and good luck!
Reply:That is the problem with testing so quickly, many pregnancy's end without any explanation. The only thing that you can do is let time heal. It will take a lot of time, but after a while, it does not seem so difficult. You will never forget, but it will ease the pain. Good luck to you in the future.
Reply:There's nothing you can do to get your mind off this loss. You had a child, that child died, you need to mourn that child. It's ok to be sad, it's ok to cry. You will get over it as quickly as anyone gets over a loss like that. Don't try to forget about it, take some time to be sad and deal with it, and it will get better with time. I know it was only two weeks so maybe some people think you shouldn't be so upset, but I've been there. When your pregnant, you are already thinking of your future with that child, you've picked out names, that child was real to you, it was already a part of your family and your life. Now things have changed quickly, it's just going to take time to get over that. Good luck, I know how you feel. Don't push yourself to pretend that it's not upsetting because in the long run, that will just make it harder on you.
Reply:I had a miscarriage when I was 9 weeks along.


We had our names picked out as well, and when the doctor told us that the babies heart wasn't beating, I broke down in tears. That whole night we cried. it's hard, I know!


Women go through this all the time, it is horrible.


But with time, the pain goes away. Truly.


You feel like you could never feel this way again, but you will when you are next pregnant. Also, you can conceive within months of the miscarriage.


I still have my ultra sound photo of our miscarried baby on our table, but it's not painful to look at now because I know she/he is in a better place.


within 8 months, I was pregnant again with a healthy beautiful baby girl.


Believe me, with time, the pain will lessen.
Reply:you are only 13! it happened for a reason! also people dont know they are pregnant at 2 weeks, u must have been 4 wks, it goes from 1st day of your last period!